There are some things I just don't understand in this world. One thing is why people stay around bad situations or in situations where they are unhappy. I would like to think I am the woman who when faced with a jerk OR anybody treating me badly, I cold hard bounce. No way No thank you. I'm also pretty clear if you treat me poorly, that I am not gonna hang around. I'm only human and it does piss me off and hurt my feelings and I am angry about pretty much everything else in my life...so why hang around haters. But that's just me and I am probably a little wrong on that point because sure there is always the moments of lets work this out or stay away from each other for a little bit but in the end I walk away. Ladies ITS NOT RIGHT TO BE TREATED LIKE CRAP! Its not that I am afraid of commitment because I commit to a lot of things e.g. sleep, gym, eating regularly,bathing - see commitment easy right?! I just have an intolerance to assholes- male and female.
So as I sit and observe my surroundings last night at a few different spots. I found myself once again in my quote un quote shark den or the wild. Place number 1. It was a man meat market! Not bad on the eyes but they were surrounded by their bottom dwellers, their lionesses. But they weren't even with these men. Really you want stare me down as I walk to the bathroom that you just stunk up?! Get real nasty pony tail. As I said and I will say it again, "Just because were pretty, doesn't mean we wont take our earrings off" Were boobs and glitter but we have screwdrivers in our purses. Place number 2. Chill, relaxed, a sloppy meat market. I think the quote of the night was "its okay to eat these onion rings because I have fetish for getting herpes" my mouth was agape and my response "huh?" place number 3. Cuban hat man. HOT. Love. lost - meh. but fun none the less.
FYI, pregnant ladies do not belong at a bar at 1 am when they are about 7 centimeters dilated people. Get real with yourself girl- its not cute!!
Its ridiculous though the way women treat each other. So caddy and snide towards each other. There are a few rules that I follow:
1. Treat your friends well. Why ignore/ talk crap about- side note (discussing issues is not talking crap about), try and hurt each other or be jealous. You are friends for a reason!
2. Always support your friends. PLEASE. Its how we spread the love. Unless your friends are hurting themselves, support them. Its not right not too.
3. Never touch your friends Siblings OR exes. And with that don't flirt with a guy your friend likes. Its just mean.
*** To side track here, I think I am so strong on this one because I don't understand why people think its okay. Maybe because most of my life I was the size of a hippo or considered- "pretty IF you loose weight" I never learned to how to flirt with guys. There was no need to allure them to my pretty little self. Sad I guess but not really because now I depend on me and I value myself. FYI. I lost 100 pounds. Not a size 3 but not a size ugly. Still sensitive though, so please don't say- He doesn't like skinny but so he likes you, or he likes thick, or chubby. R.U.D.E. I don't value myself on my waistline so others don't need to either.
4. We are not a home wreckers. Were not trying to take our earrings off, so put your claws away.
5. Dance dance dance, sometimes like an asshole, sometimes like a stripper, sometimes like no one is in the room just dance.
6. work hard play hard.
7. If you offend me you are going to hear about it. I have no problem telling someone what's up. If I don't hear it, consider yourself lucky or sad because it means I really don't care about you.
Ok enough with the rules here, there are a lot of them but I follow them. Point is. Stop being crappy to each other. Its disgusting. We have three little ladies, Kadence, Kylie and now Clare in our new "immediate" family and I think about them and what they will have to deal with when they are 16. Hopefully we (the ladies here) will give them a strong enough sense of self to walk away from people who treat them poorly too. I know Kadence will because she is strong and smart, Kylie is just love and funny- smart too, and clare, she fresh and refined- a week old and I can already tell regal.
If you do anything in this life for you. Please do this much. Treat yourself well and you will treat others well. Take a step outside of your world for just a minute and be good to each other. Instead of picking each other apart like hyenas---which we all do! Stand up for what is right. At the end of the day right is right and wrong is wrong. The good thing is, I CHOOSE not to live with other peoples wrong choices. I think I think this way because I grew up with all brothers in our own little wolf pack. I have my girl sister cousins (not literally) and they are great but the vast majority of my time as a little precious gem stone of a tom boy girl was spent sucking up and rolling with the punches (literally), I never dealt with the caddiness of women and never learned a tolerance to it and think none of us should.
It's easier sad than done. I know this because well just read above.... a mixture of strength and hypocrisy.
xoxo
Lauren...maybe i should go by Elle
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